Gentle Sleep Training

Gentle sleep training is a way of helping babies or toddlers learn to fall asleep (and stay asleep) more independently, but without using harsh methods like "cry it out" (where you leave them to cry alone for long periods).

The Gentle Sleep Training Method Focuses On

  • Identifying your little one’s specific sleep needs

  • Get pediatrician’s approval to prioritize sleep and rule out any health issues

  • Record sleep in a sleep log

  • Focus on the holistic picture first: nursery, sleep goals, wake windows, feeds, and what type of ‘sleep baby’ you have.

  • Build strong, predictable bedtime routines so your child feels safe and secure.

  • Get help from Just Sleep Already to devise a plan so that everyone is on the same page with how to tackle sleep and how to troubleshoot. Winging it at 3AM is not ideal.

  • Respond to your child's cries or needs quickly but intentionally.

  • Offer comfort while encouraging them to settle themselves — like patting, shushing, or staying nearby as they fall asleep.

  • Fade out your involvement. Gradually reducing your involvement over time (this is often called "gradual withdrawal" or "fading").

The idea is to help them feel supported while they learn the skills to sleep better, with less stress for both the child and the parent.🌙

Identifying Your Baby or Toddler’s Sleep Needs: What is Enough Sleep?

The amount of sleep recommended is derived from the American Academy of Pediatrics and adjusted by age.  Your child's adjusted age is calculated by their due date instead of their birth date.  Based on that calculation, you will see a more accurate target for recommended sleep and wake times.  Below is the chart which can help you determine what your age-appropriate sleep goals should be for your child. This includes the amount that should be allocated by daytime and nighttime.  

Note, however, these are simply ranges, and should not be used to cause any guilt or stress in your sleep journey.  Every child is unique, and as you start laying healthy foundations and routines for sleep, your child WILL start getting the sleep they need.

Depending on your child's age, you should expect the number of daytime sleep to also range across anywhere between 5 - 1 naps which are very important to successful nights, with the remaining hours to be attained at night time.

Log Baby’s Sleep

Your first task in beginning your sleep journey is to start logging your child's sleep if you aren't sure how much they are getting in a 24 hour period! This will also help us troubleshoot if and when you decide you need support. I get wanting to be a bit chill with sleep, but if you don’t track anything, you’ll never know how to improve your situation and that can cause even more stress. For example, if your child is overtired, you will have a child who is fighting the nap or bed time, and perhaps even waking at the next sleep cycle.  If you have a child who is under-tired, they may play for a while and take a while to go down, but then also not sleep as long because they simply haven't collected enough need for sleep.

Utilize a Schedule

Before you jump into your age-appropriate schedule sample, it's critical to know that schedules should not serve an accurate rigid schedule but as a guideline for a routine that can be used to help you provide the right timing for optimal sleep for your child.  Your child WILL RARELY follow your schedule perfectly, over and over, so instead, use this as a general guide to keeping you on track for bedtime and wake times.   

When you develop your schedule, make sure you have these mantras in mind:

  • Our schedule should not make me feel like a prisoner

  • Our schedule is so I can avoid an overtired child

  • Our schedule is FLEXIBLE and will vary by 30 mins each day

  • Our schedule should be driven by routine and wake windows, and only clock-based around 6-8 months.

  • Our schedule allows us to better plan around our day so that we can have our freedom and a rested child

Popular Types of Sleep Support

As any parent knows, sleep is vital to the well-being of both babies and toddlers — and, let’s be honest, to the well-being of the parents too! However, getting your little one to sleep soundly and independently is often easier said than done. Whether you're a new parent or seasoned veteran, you may have encountered a range of sleep challenges that have led you to explore different types of sleep support for your baby or toddler.

The truth is, there’s no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to baby and toddler sleep support. Every child is unique, and so are their sleep needs. But don’t worry — there’s a range of methods that can help guide your little one (and you!) to better, more peaceful nights. Let’s dive into some of the most popular types of sleep support available.

Sleep Training Methods: Teaching Your Baby to Self-Soothe

Sleep training is one of the most well-known approaches, with several different methods aimed at helping babies and toddlers learn to fall asleep independently. The goal is to establish a consistent sleep routine and encourage your child to self-soothe, which means learning to fall asleep on their own without relying on parental intervention

    1. Ferber Method (Graduated Crying): The Ferber method involves letting your baby cry for increasing intervals of time before going in to comfort them. Over time, this teaches your baby to self-soothe and fall asleep independently. This method is best for babies over 4-6 months old.

    2. Chair Method: In this gentler approach, you gradually move further away from your child’s crib over several nights, helping them learn to fall asleep without your direct presence. It's a slower but less distressing method than the Ferber method.

    3. No Tears Method: Popularized by sleep consultant Elizabeth Pantley, this method emphasizes soothing your child without allowing them to cry. You can gently help your baby fall asleep by providing comfort, such as patting or shushing, but not picking them up

    • Helps establish independent sleep habits.

    • Can result in more consistent sleep patterns over time.

    • Some methods, especially the Ferber Method, may be too hard on parents who are uncomfortable with crying.

    • It can take several days to see progress.

Gentle Sleep Support: Focusing on Comfort and Security

If you're looking for a more nurturing and gradual approach, gentle sleep methods focus on providing comfort, reassurance, and consistency without allowing your baby to cry for extended periods. This approach can be especially appealing to parents who prefer a gentler, more responsive style of parenting.

    1. The Pick Up/Put Down Method: This method involves picking your baby up when they cry and soothing them until calm, then placing them back in their crib. The cycle continues until your baby learns to fall asleep on their own.

    2. The No-Cry Sleep Solution: This method involves a series of gentle techniques, such as creating a calming bedtime routine, establishing a consistent sleep environment, and gradually reducing your involvement in your child’s sleep routine.

    3. Baby-Led Sleep: A more laid-back approach that encourages following your baby's cues when it comes to bedtime. The goal is to create a consistent sleep environment but not necessarily enforce strict sleep training or routines.

    • Nurtures emotional security and bonding.

    • No need for crying or distress.

    • Can be adapted to fit your parenting style.

    • It can take longer to see results.

    • Some children may take longer to adjust to sleeping independently.

Sleep Environment Modifications: Creating a Sleep-Friendly Space

Sometimes, sleep challenges can be linked to the environment rather than the child’s behavior. Modifying your baby or toddler’s sleep environment can encourage better sleep habits and make them feel more comfortable.

    1. Darkness: A dark room helps signal to your child that it’s time to sleep. Consider using blackout curtains or shades.

    2. White Noise: Many babies sleep better with some background noise to mask environmental sounds. White noise machines, fans, or a smartphone app can help.

    3. Temperature: The ideal sleep temperature for babies is between 68°F and 72°F (20°C to 22°C). Keep the room cool but not chilly.

    4. Comfortable Sleepwear and Bedding: Use breathable fabrics like cotton, and make sure your baby is dressed appropriately for the temperature of the room.

    5. Safe Sleep Practices: Always place babies on their backs to sleep in a crib free of loose bedding, pillows, or stuffed animals.

    • Creating an optimal sleep environment can improve sleep quality without any behavioral changes.

    • Non-invasive approach.

    • Some adjustments may take time to be effective.

    • Sleep environment changes may not work for all children.

Nutrition and Feeding Schedules: Managing Sleep Through Diet

What your baby eats (and when they eat) plays a crucial role in their sleep. For babies under 6 months, nighttime feedings are often necessary, but as they grow, those feedings may begin to disrupt their sleep patterns.

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    1. Establish a Feeding Schedule: Consistent daytime feedings can help regulate your baby’s nighttime hunger. Some babies sleep longer stretches once they have a more predictable feeding schedule.

    2. Avoid Overfeeding or Underfeeding at Night: For babies older than 6 months, ensure that they're getting enough food during the day so they don’t wake up hungry at night.

    3. Weaning Night Feedings: Gradually reducing nighttime feedings can help your baby learn to sleep longer stretches. Some parents do this by decreasing the amount of milk or formula offered or extending the time between feedings.

    • Can help babies sleep longer and more soundly.

    • Promotes healthier sleep habits as your baby matures.

    • It can take time for your baby to adjust to a new feeding schedule.

    • Requires consistency and patience.

Consulting Sleep Experts: When to Seek Professional Help

If you’ve tried several methods and your child is still struggling with sleep, it may be time to consult a pediatric sleep consultant or a doctor. Sleep consultants are experts who specialize in helping parents develop individualized sleep plans tailored to their child’s specific needs:

  • Professional help can provide personalized solutions.

  • Sleep consultants can guide you through the sleep training process.

Learn more about how Just Sleep Already can help you and your family.

 Finding What Works for Your Family

Ultimately, there’s no “right” way to help your baby or toddler sleep better — only the method that feels right for your family’s needs and values. Whether you opt for sleep training, a more gentle approach, or modifying your baby’s sleep environment, the most important thing is consistency, patience, and flexibility. Babies and toddlers change so quickly, and what works one month may not be as effective the next. Always be open to adjusting your approach as your child grows and their needs evolve.

Above all, trust your instincts, and remember that you're not alone in this journey. Parenting is full of challenges, but with the right sleep support, you'll all be well-rested and ready to face whatever comes next!

Let us help, Book a free intro call with us to see what sounds best for your family!